Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts

Sunday, April 26, 2015

The Lie of Isolation

I love hiking and backpacking. I pretty much know the ins and outs of all the public parks within an hour’s radius of my home and I love the solitude that is available at these places. It has become a habit of mine to routinely get out into nature. In nature I can see more clearly the creation of the Lord. I see beauty and marvel at how beautiful it is and praise the Lord for His creation and praise Him for the art of it all. Being out in creation is a wonderful respite from stress and frustration for me but I have begun to discover a disturbing trend in my behavior: when I have relational conflict or are stricken by the pervasiveness of my own sin, I long to retreat into the wilderness. When I am disturbed by the ungodly activities in my community of across the world, my initial inclination is to flee into the woods. This revelation has opened my eyes to the great lie of isolation. The lie of isolation is that by removing the external influences you can better yourself.

We falsely believe that if we remove ourselves from temptation we can eliminate sin. This motivation is what led the Desert Fathers to flee the extravagances of the Roman Empire and to seek solace in the wilderness. Their (justified) desire for purity led them to an incredibly drastic retreat into asceticism. Sin, though, is a product of our yet unconvinced flesh, which has yet to comprehend in our freedom in Christ. Sin, ultimately resides in our heart not in our surroundings. Isolation seeks to remedy the sickness yet only serves to mask the disease.

Many of us find ourselves frustrated and often hurt by the actions of others. We linger on the pain of broken relationships or harsh and critical words. We see the sinfulness of our unbelieving neighbors and we are disturbed. Our knee-jerk reaction in these situations is to pull back because it hurts to remain. Isolation tells us that if we remove ourselves from engagement with others we can mitigate the risk, the temptation, or pain associated with human relationships.

Solitude is a beautiful, wonderful tool, modeled by Jesus, that serves to refresh, refocus, and clarify but it was never intended to be an end unto itself. To do so is to abandon Jesus’ call not only to a community of believers but also His command to go out and make disciples of all nations, which requires engagement with the individuals and communities that surround us. To abuse this discipline is to act out of fear and selfishness--- both faulty and unhealthy motivations.

We were not made for isolation either individually or corporately. When we isolate our communities from the greater world we fail to fulfill our purpose and reflect poorly our Savior who, though often seeking the solitude of the wilderness, was committed to entering into the lives and communities of sinners (us). What cause do we have to lament the grievances done to us when our Savior, through His engagement with us, suffered more than any man can conceive?


When we turn to isolation to escape our problems and pain, believing the lie that it will recuse us of further discomfort, we fail to fulfill the purposes we were created for. We were not created for isolation. We were created for fellowship. We must, however difficult, uncomfortable, painful, or hopeless it might seem, believe that the Spirit of the Lord is strong enough to heal the wounds; strong enough to influence change in others; strong enough to fulfill the plans of God. We must view our fellow believers truly: as brothers and sisters. We must listen and engage them as if they were family, for that is what they are. We must seek their good above our own for such is the example of Christ. We can trust that: “the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”

Monday, September 15, 2014

The Blessing of Delay

I have some pretty bad days. On the low days I often feel beaten down by the troubles of my life and the anxieties of my mind. There are many days that the victory is simply persevering; pushing through to another day. There are times when my own striving against sin seems to become a war of attrition, or worse --- a quagmire. There are nights I close my eyes pleading for the Lord’s power to get through another day.

In addition to the trials and temptations, I am particularly affected by the pains of the world and of those around me. I’ve always been this way, even before I came to know Christ I can remember attending a party where the guests were engaged in all sorts of licentiousness and promiscuity. Even in my pre-regenerate state I was overcome by the sin and evil present there. I knelt on the ground in pain for my friends. In fact it was this very sense of innate sinfulness of the world that led me later to seek Christ.

Similarly, I am affected by the pain and ungodliness of the world. Many days after hearing of war and famine; of precious men and women pursuing ungodly paths, I am stricken and tempted to despair. When the righteous are persecuted, oppressed, and ridiculed I ask: “How long Lord must we endure?” This is the thought I often return to:  a yearning for the day of reconciliation when we will see our Lord Jesus face to face; when all pain will be wiped away.


Perhaps, however, I am approaching this world all wrong. In 2 Peter we read: “The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance” and later “count the patience of our Lord as salvation.” Could it be that in my weariness and dissatisfaction I am mistaking unhappiness for blessing? Perhaps in the fishbowl world of my own self-absorption I am missing the patience of God in light of my own trivial, temporary discomforts? In truth the fact that we are still in this world (and thus experiencing the pains that come with that) is evidence not of the Lord’s absence or forgetfulness but rather a testament to his patience and desire to see men and women saved. When I realize this, I am made aware of my own narrow selfishness and challenged to praise the Lord for his reticence rather than condemn Him for His perceived inaction. What would He be able to do through me if my eyes were open to my role in bringing about God’s purposes instead of clouded by my own pride?