A Theology of Community

It’s graduation party season. One can hardly drive down a street without seeing lines of cars, colorful balloons, and signs with 2015 stretched across driveways. I was driving to one yesterday in fact (Congratulations Josh and Andrew!) and the first thought that popped into my head was this: ‘It’s such a shame that parents have to go through the rigmarole of having an elaborate party just because it’s a social convention.’ The way I’ve always viewed social gatherings is that they are purely utilitarian. You have a birthday party to honor someone’s birth, give gifts, and have some cake. At a wedding shower you give gifts and play some party games. This kind of thinking has even influenced the way I look at church gatherings. Church events fall into some pretty well-defined categories:

1.           Sunday service – purpose: worshipping God, prayer, being edified by a sermon

2.           Prayer gatherings – purpose: prayer

3.           Outreaches- purpose: attracting and reaching non-believers

4.           Small groups- purpose: discipleship

Books such as Rick Warren’s The Purpose-Driven Church (and the student ministry focused Purpose-Driven Youth Ministry) have helped to shape my beliefs. I don't want to slander those needed and we'll-intentioned books but I think they've reinforced my own personal eccentricities. You see I've always been a bit awkward in social situations. I loathe small talk and honestly have always thought I communicated better I writing (you are the judge). I always wanted to be the quiet, introspective guy who said little but when he spoke, spoke with such profundity that he was always well-regarded. I think though I've just become a guy who doesn't talk.

I've always been a bit socially-averse. That is if you count wanting to "pull a Thoreau" as socially averse. Recently I was checking out these (http://www.relevantmagazine.com/slices/these-eco-friendly-tiny-house-pods-look-amazing) as a real option. All of this has shaped my life thus far. Lately though, I've been pondering the validity of my beliefs.

The Bible is a record of community. The history of the nation of Israel is one of festivals, remembrances, and celebrations (prescribed by God, nonetheless). Social interaction was not only a practical necessity in the context, but also instituted by the Lord. The lines between social life and religious life were blurred. Passover was as much a communal event as it was a religious one. The New Testament continues the trend of social interaction. Jesus engaged his audience at dinners and parties. The first disciples embraced the concept of communal living even further. Not limited by perceived notions of sacred and secular, they ate and prayed; they celebrated and sang; they served and they shared. So how did we end up in a climate where we are so compartmentalized and isolated? How did we end up where the social and the spiritual exist in completely separate worlds? I'm sure there are a lot of deep societal reasons (Western culture, technology, and travel among them) but what I am left contemplating is how to embrace a healthier level of engagement.

In reading Shauna Niequist on the topic (http://www.shaunaniequist.com/) I've been left unsettled by the level of disengagement I see in my own life. To be sure, we want our gatherings to be purposeful when they need to be. We should pray when we need to pray. We need to teach and to learn when the situation arises. We do need to make sure that we don't shy away from the spiritual to ensure that things don't get awkward or complicated. We need to engage. Perhaps, though, the line between purpose and pleasure needs to be bent. Perhaps we need to view community in less utilitarian terms. We need to take down the doors of our homes (probably not literally) and invite people in. It seems like that’s what Jesus did. 

I envy my friends who see this more clearly than I. Those who understand that there is value (to use my logical terms) in being around friends and family live a far healthier existence than I. Those who can see that surrounding oneself with others is not merely the setting but also the plot are getting something out of life that (if I'm honest) I'm not. A chef (or Shauna Niequist) might say that the sauce is as much a part of the meal as the meat. Perhaps, no, not perhaps, certainly, I have lost out on something by approaching life and faith piecemeal, taking the elements without embracing the whole community (even if it is awkward and messy).